Abstract

In our years of premarital counseling and conducting weddings, it has been observed that the statement “ For better, for worse; for richer,  for poorer; in sickness and in health” sends a message of mixed blessings to couples as they take their marital vows. We are aware of some couples who choose not to include these statements in their vows because they do not want to prophesy the worse, or poverty or ill health into their marriage.  Others see it as a reality check in their fantasy dreams of living “ happily  ever after”  marital expectations especially on their wedding day when everything and everyone is looking so beautiful and perfect.  They would usually take a deep breath and pronounce the statements. Sometimes when we say the vows and ask couples to repeat after the minster, it is like taking the hand of a little child and leading them through a dark, scary cave.  While we know that life in general has its ups and downs with no exemption in marriage, the book, For Better than for Worse, offers hope in the final outcomes.  We come out better than worse, if we have the right attitude and perspectives.  We have found the bible to be a timeless treasure that offers wholesome values, balanced perspectives and positive attitudes to couples and families in a fast paced post modern world. It is out of this treasure chest that the book of Ruth emerges as an encouraging  story line of real people with real issues and the triumphs that came through their struggles.  Ruth, Naomi and Boaz, came out for better than worse, in spite of their hard times.